I decided to write something about the basics of dialysis and what it means for most people.
Dialysis can be a two edged sword depending on how it is viewed. It is one of those things that can be both good and bad for a person at the same time. It can offer both hope and a sense of finality about your prospects. It can be something you hold on to or something that makes you completely give up. It can be something you absolutely fear and loathe, or something that gives you strength to keep going. It can be both the thing that gives you strength and the thing that takes it away. It is no wonder that my 9 years on dialysis had wrecked my brain, my body and soul.
The explanation of all that, goes back to the start of dialysis. The explanation on why dialysis is such a contradiction of many things is because people see dialysis as a life sentence. So when you are told you need to have it done, you try to avoid it. Firstly, because you don’t understand it and secondly, because you fear what you don’t understand. The only reason it has been proposed though, is so that your life can be EXTENDED. Extended, not ended. Dialysis is a way to extend your life, for without it, at end stage renal failure, your life will come to an end soon if something is not done to prolong it.
Something very important to keep in mind from a strictly medical and scientific point of view is that nobody will tell you that you require dialysis unless you really need it. Contrary to some beliefs, doctors are not trying to trick you, lie to you, or take your hope away. They are not trying to make money out of you or force you, if they knew of any other choice or alternative. Now being in and living within asian cultures, alternative medicine is a favourite for many. I understand this, I am not against it, but most people trust alternative medicine empirically and never research what they are given. Herbal concoctions can make your kidney condition a lot worse despite claims to restore you, You owe it to yourself to learn in full about all ingredients and not swallow whole what other sinsehs or traditional herbalists say. You also need to understand medicine contraindications. Too much to go into detail, but I had to put a brief note at this point.
So how long can dialysis extend your life for? Well this depends on so many factors. One major factor is whether you have any other conditions or illnesses, and another factor would be your age. Younger patients tend to respond better and faster, and without other diseases can go on with dialysis prolonging their life for 10, 20 and even 30 years. Older patients may have a challenge with longevity because they most likely have other conditions like diabetes or heart disease. These pose a greater challenge although that is not to say that life cannot extend just as much as the next person. Diet and lifestyle and being responsible with medication regiment is another contributing factor. Researching, understanding, asking questions, keeping things factual, also help. Most importantly, do not listen or take advice from people with little or no experience in the related field. Do not listen to friends or relatives with ambiguous information, and do not take miracle supplements which will all put further strain on your kidney function. There is NO miracle supplement that will cure your end stage renal disease or reverse it. Being at end stage and needing dialysis means that your kidney is damaged by 80-90%. That means most of it is already completely damaged beyond repair or reversal as it has been going on for many many long years. Kidneys do not get damaged overnight. They deteriorate slowly over 10-15 years, sometimes more. By the time you discover how sick you really are, it is too late to do any reversal. You may feel ok except for some tiredness. That does not mean that you are ok. Being sick does not always mean lying passed out on the floor, dying. To some people the concept of being sick is very dramatic. In reality, many illnesses don’t happen like on TV. You can feel fine and not know that your body is deteriorating slowly on the inside.
So back to why dialysis is a conundrum of both good and bad – well good because it initially gives you hope to prolong your life temporarily, but bad because the longer you are on it, your body which is holding on temporarily to the limited things that a machine can do to replace kidney function, will slowly and eventually get worse. In other words, dialysis prolongs your life and slows down the process of your body deteriorating but it cannot stop that deterioration completely. It also is quite taxing and draining on the body because it is an artificial process designed to prolong life for a while. It is not designed as a cure nor can it replace kidney function completely. The artificial process of filtering toxins out, cleaning the blood and returning it to the body will cause heart palpitations, nausea and vomiting, dehydration and other side effects that occur due to a combination of the process as well as the instability of the blood results as an indicator of the ups and downs of being unwell. Since filtering of the blood is only by way of 25%, the remaining toxin build-up will cause a strain on all other remaining organs. There will also be hormonal imbalances as the body gets more confused over the slowly deteriorating conditions. Water retention and dehydration happen simultaneously as water is removed and then stored again without a proper avenue to filter it 24/7.
These physical strains will slowly begin to affect you mentally and emotionally. No matter how strong you think you are, the instability of the body and all its chemicals will slowly start to physically affect the brain function and other organ function which will then affect your emotions. You will feel confusion, brain fog, fatigue to the point of passing out. There will be times of sleeplessness, immense anxiety, panic attacks, unstable emotions coming and going. There may be times of depression and hopelessness as you sit and ponder what your fate is and why you are going through these difficult times. You will start out holding on to the good moments until you realise out of 7 days a week you only get 1 or 2 semi-ok days. The rest of the time you feel unwell. As time goes on, more unwell feelings accumulate. You start to have skin issues, digestive issues, and more.
So yes, life is prolonged, but with that also comes the slow but certain realisation that you are deteriorating slowly but surely. How long can a person hold on? This differs from person to person. I am only one person, so I can only speak for myself, but for me after almost 9 years, I experienced a lot of depression and expressed many times the desire to just say I am done and I no longer want to keep trying or keep fighting. I overcame each episode, but it got harder and harder keeping the depressive thoughts and feelings away. Mainly you feel extremely fatigued and you lose your will to live because it is so difficult to do over such a long period of time.
So how is this situation handled? It is overcome by a lot of mental effort and motivation. It is overcome by faith and believe in God. It is overcome by hope that God has a plan and purpose for everything. It is overcome by continuous support from others. But mainly, it is overcome by self-desire to simply challenge yourself to be an overcomer, and seeking to be an example of someone that thrives in difficult conditions so that others may be inspired to do the same.
I wish this could be turned into a post that gives good news, but I have to be honest and tell you the truth. Can dialysis be avoided? At ESRD, no. If you do try and avoid it, you will be taking a huge risk with the remaining 10% kidney function that isn’t enough to see you through the next few years. Most people have not made it passed two years. No other treatment can help. The only ever successful cases I have heard of had to do with a complete plant-based diet which is very hard to do, although not impossible. With tremendous discipline some people overseas have been able to hold off dialysis but we are not sure for how long. But keep in mind that you cannot reverse your condition or cure it, you can just fend off dialysis temporarily for a short time by plant-based foods because they have less toxins and as such improves the GFR ever so slightly. In other words, you trick your circumstances for a time. You are not cured. You must understand the difference. Also, your doctor will not be convinced that this is sustainable. For everyone who cannot and do not know how to make this lifestyle change or who cannot do it nor maintain it for many reasons, dialysis is your only option. Don’t ask me about plant based diets as I have not successfully tried it for this purpose, thus I cannot give any advice or share any experience. Eventually whatever the diet is, the kidneys will continue to deteriorate with time and even the 10% function will decrease to 7%….5%…. etc
So the takeaway is, dialysis in the early days is a temporary life saver. It brings hope and extends your life for some years. During these precious years of extension, the point is to seek a better treatment plan that can offer you even longer life and with extremely high quality. That treatment plan is a kidney transplant. With a transplant, your function can go back up to 70%, 80% or more depending on the donor kidney. With that much function, there is actual life to be lived. Keep in mind that prolong dialysis will bring with it thoughts of negativity and hesitancy to do anything else or move out of the years of routine. I know because it happened to me. Up to the point where even the suggestion of a transplant did not make me feel hopeful at all. In fact I will be honest that I was going through the motions of getting ready for a transplant, but after so many years on dialysis I was hesitant and afraid of change. Right up till the last moment, I had laid all my fears on the table and my doc sat and spoke to me to convince me that everything was ready, I just needed to take the leap. I thought I was doing ok. I thought I could continue to cope. I did not like the prospect of the unknown. I didn’t like the risks. I didn’t like the prospect of the medication. I was afraid my physical problems would continue to worsen. I was going through tremendous digestive challenges. Negative thinking had clouded my judgement, slowly easing its way into my thoughts for so many years, I couldn’t see pass the clouded fog of fear and uncertainty. So don’t assume that I don’t understand the complacency of being used to the routine and telling myself I was managing fine on dialysis and that I did not need another big operation to save me. I went through the mental struggle as I had already been through so many procedures and trauma. I did not want another big surgery.
BUT, the minute I opened my eyes in ICU after my surgery, in that instant, I knew all those feelings I had had were completely wrong. I felt like a new person, the brain fog lifted, my eyes looked around and saw things clearer, brighter, sharper, shinier. My body was producing 4L of urine in a bag. I was emotionally uplifted. Even with catheters and tubes in various parts of my body, I could feel instantly that something had changed for the better.
I do not have enough words to describe it. But don’t let the brain fog and clouded judgement of fear, rob you from the opportunity to feel new again. To feel like you again.
Use dialysis to get u back on your feet but don’t stay there for too long the way I did. I thought I had no option, I was resigned to the difficulties. I had learned to live with them. Don’t do what I did. Fight for a better treatment plan. Use dialysis to get u back on your feet, then fight to get yourself a new kidney. Talk to your family, educate and explain. Raise funds, find out what options are out there. Never ever give up. Aim to get off dialysis as fast as you can. Do something before you get into that clouded state of mind.
Use dialysis for the good it brings, then substitute it for something better before it has the chance to bring you down.
I don’t profess to know it all, I speak only from my own experience, research and quest for knowledge throughout my entire journey.